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SEXUALITY: What Men Want In Bed: 10 Ways To Drive Him Wild

Yes, we all know men like getting blow jobs, fantasize about threesomes, and generally just love sex and want it all the time. But let’s delve in a little deeper into what men really want in bed and wish women knew.

What Men Want In Bed

1. It’s All About The Attitude

Guys want to have sex with a woman who is actually into it. Eagerness and enthusiasm go a long way. A lot of women have the attitude that just letting a guy have sex with her is some kind of gift, and guys hate that.

If you are just going through the motions, or doing it out of obligation, as a favor, or because you want something in return, that’s a major turn off.

The ultimate turn on to a guy is being with a woman who is enjoying the sex just as much as he is.

2. Make Him Feel Wanted

Men have a strong need to be sexually wanted. Just telling a man “I want you” can do all kinds of things for his ego.

Letting him know how much you enjoy sex with him also works great. Try telling him, “I love having you inside me.” If you’re too shy to say that aloud, try texting him.

If you don’t want to be that direct, you can let him catch you staring at his butt or any other part of his body that turns you on. Perhaps even touch him more than usual, especially in naughty places.

Objectify him a little, lust after him, and let him know how much he turns you on. You’ll catch him off guard and make him feel like he’s so sexy you just can’t control yourself.

3. Initiate Once In A While

Traditionally, men are the ones who initiate sex. They’re wired that way as a result of their ancient hunter ancestors.

Most men love to take charge and are cool with initiating sex most of the time. But it can get old when he has to be the one to do it every time.

Remember how guys need to feel wanted? When you never initiate sex, your man might start to feel like you’re not attracted to him.

Whisper in his ear how badly you want him inside you, or stick you hand down his pants. If you really want to rock his world, wake him with a morning BJ.

However you decide to initiate sex, it’s guaranteed to make your guy happy because for once he doesn’t have to be the one to do it.

4. Take Control

Although men love to be in charge, they like to be dominated every once in a while too. It can get boring after a while to be the one who is always in control.

It drives a guy wild when a woman grabs him, pushes him down, and has her way with him. A woman who knows what she wants and goes after it is a huge turn on.

If you tend to let your man take control all the time, try turning the tables and taking the reins once in a while. Not only will your man be in for a surprise, but he’ll know without a doubt how much you want him.

5. Confidence Is Key

Confidence is the sexiest trait a woman can have. Whatever insecurities you have, remember that your man is with you because he’s attracted to you and wants to have sex with you.

A woman who can take her clothes off with confidence is much more attractive than a woman who asks her man to turn the lights off first. Men are visual creatures and get off on seeing you in all your naked glory.

If you are uncomfortable, try soft lighting that will hide any flaws you’re stressing over. But in all likelihood guys would never notice those little jiggles or that cellulite you’re so worried about. They’re just so thrilled to be there with you, naked!

6. Be Vocal

Guys love it when you let loose and get loud. A woman who can express herself in the bedroom is a huge turn on.

Whether it’s moaning and groaning or uninhibited screaming, they appreciate the feedback that whatever they’re doing is working. Guys need to know they’re doing a good job. They want to know that they’re driving you so wild that you can’t help but scream in ecstasy.

Throw in a little dirty talk and you’ll send him over the edge! Give him a filthy play-by-play or let him know what you want to do to him next.

7. Give Instructions

Every woman is different when it comes to what they like. Guys appreciate a little guidance on how to pleasure you, otherwise it’s a lot of trial and error on their part.

You are the one person who knows exactly what it takes to get you off, so help a guy out and give him some instructions to set him in the right direction. Don’t be shy about it!

Whether you guide him with sounds or words of encouragement when he’s on the right track, or flat out tell him what to do when he’s not, most guys will be thankful. If you want bonus points, get a little dirty when you’re telling him what you want him to do to you.

A woman who knows what she wants is a turn on. Plus, guys get a lot of sexual gratification from pleasing their partners. Anything you can do to help him please you is a win-win for both of you.

8. Worship Him

For men, sex is very much about feeding their egos. They want to feel desired, appreciated, and worshipped.

And this is why oral sex is so important to men. They are fixated on it so much because they want you to worship their cocks just as much as they do.

The key to giving a mind-blowing BJ is actually enjoying it. Having the power to send your man over the edge with a knee-buckling, thigh-quivering orgasm should make you feel sexy as hell.

Make eye-contact with your man and let him see how much pleasure it gives you to please him. You’ll make him feel like a rock star!

9. Be Adventurous

Men love women who are open to trying new things in the bedroom. Everyone has a different sexual appetite, so be adventurous and willing to try new flavors. It’s boring to do the same thing all the time anyways.

It’s also important not to make a guy feel bad about anything he wants to do. When you’re open to his fantasies, he’ll feel safe to express himself sexually and connected to you on a deeper level.

If you’re not comfortable with whatever it is he wants to do, that’s fine. Just don’t judge him for it or make him feel like a pervert. Negotiate and try to find something that works for both of you.

10. Don’t Fake It

Women usually mean well when they fake an orgasm. They don’t want to bruise their man’s ego so they just let him think he finished the job.

However, you’re actually giving positive reinforcement for something that didn’t work. If your man isn’t pleasing you, tell him how he can. Above all, your man really does want to please you and faking it doesn’t it allow him to be the best lover he can be.

If you know you aren’t going to come and you are ready to finish, you can just tell him. A direct instruction such as, “I want you to come now,” will let him know he’s free to let himself go without worrying about whether it’s been long enough for you.

Sexuality: Why young girls have saggy breast

By Sherifat Lawal

Sagging breast is one of the major concerns of the average girl. From adolescence to adulthood; no lady wants to lose her sense of youth. In an interview with Vanguard, Doctor Peter Atangwho (@firstdoctorr) gives expert opinion on why young girls have saggy breasts.

Excerpt

Why do young girls have saggy breasts?

The fact remains that falling or sagging breasts is due to a combination of factors that tend to increase as the woman ages.

Some ligaments in the breast called Cooper’s ligaments hold the breast tissue together. With time, they can get stretched out, causing the breast to sag.

Another contributing factor is the loss of skin elasticity which makes a young woman’s boobs appear deflated.

For example, people that are bursty tend to experience sagging faster due to the dragging effect of their huge breast mass on the Cooper’s ligament as a result of gravity

Speaking of ‘number of pregnancies’, can abortion be a causative factor?

During pregnancy, there’s interplay of hormones like estrogen and progesterone which have massive effects on breast size in preparation for breastfeeding.

If an abortion occurs, however, those effects could still be seen on the breast tissue. So strictly speaking, abortion can contribute.

So, having numerous abortions or miscarriages is a contributing factor?

The number of pregnancies is what matters most. In other words, the more children you have, the more stretched out your breasts could become.

Can sucking of the breast by sexual partner during foreplay contribute to the sagging of the breast?

I am not aware of any research that supports the popular belief that sucking of the breasts by a woman’s sexual partner makes them sag.

Like I said, the main cause is loss of skin elasticity and overstretching of the Cooper’s ligaments.

Is there any expert opinion on how to prevent the breast from sagging?

Yes, sure. Maybe the right word is “delay” breast sagging because as the woman continues to age and approach menopause, sagging becomes almost inevitable.

Back to the question, one can delay sagging by using their appropriate bra size, drinking lots of water to keep the skin hydrated, avoid smoking, maintain a healthy weight, and always sit straight up to support their breasts and avoid them hanging downwards or dangling.

(Vanguard)

Anti-gay law: 40% of Nigerian lawmakers, over twelve governors are homosexuals – Uche Maduagwu

Nollywood Actor, Uche Maduagwu has called on the US President, Joe Biden, to place sanctions on the Nigerian government over the 2014 anti-gay law, alleging that 40% of the current lawmakers and over twelve governors are homosexuals.

The law was signed by ex-President, Goodluck Jonathan and it prohibits all forms of gay relationships in Nigeria.

The law also states that a 14-year jail term awaits anyone caught in an act of homosexuality.

However, Uche in a post via his Instagram account asked President Biden to sanction the Nigerian government over the law.

He also alleged that 40% of the current lawmakers and 12 state governors are homosexuals but are hiding behind closed doors.

“Dear President Joe Biden. I am proudly gay, and I beg you to place sanctions on Nigerian government for its inhuman laws against law-abiding homosexuals.

“This same government pampers wicked Fulani herdsmen who kidnap and cause trouble in southern part of Nigeria.

“We are tired and scared despite the fact that more than 40% of current legislatures and over twelve governors are homosexuals in naija; why the hypocrisy,” he said.

Recall that the Controversial Nollywood actor, recently revealed that he is gay.

Maduagwu made the declaration via his Instagram page on Thursday, asking his followers to learn to accept and respect other people’s choices.

Why Igbo men should marry more wives- Ned Nwoko

Former member, House of Representatives, lawyer and philanthropist, Prince Ned Nwoko, has said that he typically ties the knot with a lady within three weeks and that happened with all his wives.

Nwoko who spoke to BBC news in Igbo, said: Our (Regina and him) marriage is solid, based on respect and understanding over time. I met her and I like her, we married within three weeks, I married all my wives within same period, I do not believe in dating anybody I want to marry.”

“You marry them and you begin to fall in love within the marriage. Even in my own culture as it were as a kid in the sixties, people were not dating, they get married, within the families, they choose a wife, most girls are expected to be virgins, they get married and then they build a family from there.

“And because they did not know each other before they got married, there is a lot of excitement and a lot of learning to do, but Regina and I is a story that is interesting because before I met her, I did not know about her, I do not watch movies, I met her the first time when she came to my house with her mother and siblings to my place in Delta, which is a tourist attraction. I saw her and I like her and that was it, you know,” he said.

On his marrying another wife, he said: “Whether I marry another wife is not … she knows that it can happen, I come from a very polygamous environment myself, I love children and I want more children, she knows it and my other wives know this, so we see what happens in the future.”

“You see the average Northerner marrying two, three, four women, they are helping the society because it is the economic downturn that has affected so many women who you see doing prostitution and all that. But the fallacy of it all is that Christianity does not allow that in the South and yet, the average Southern man has 10 girlfriends.

“I love my culture as I know it, not as they are trying to dilute it. Igbo culture is wonderful and should be promoted the way it has always been. But even looking at that, look at your population in Nigeria and what I will call economy of marriage, as an Igbo man with one wife, four children, a Northerner has four wives with five children each, in the next 10 years, 20 years, imagine the population of the Northerner.

“With you, an Igbo person, the population will be like one to five because of this disparity. The gap is getting bigger and Igbos will never catch up because of this self-imposed restriction,” he bemoaned.

Bobrisky says he’ll do full $300K sex change in 2021

Nigerian crossdresser Bobrisky, real name Idris Okuneye, 28, said he would go for full gender change next year.

In multiple posts on Instagram he mentioned a Dr Philip in “‘Colombia”, who will do the surgery at a cost of $300,000.

He said he had banked the money and was ready to go.

He also said he was not afraid to die, should there be complications from it.

Bobrisky revealed why he changed himself into a woman after being a man for almost 25 years of his life.

The socialite and brand influencer stated that he kept struggling even with a certificate as an accounting graduate from the University of Lagos.

According to Bobrisky, he noticed his female friends were cashing out, so he decided to join them by cross dressing, since he already has some existent female features.

He also started taking feminine body pills and robbing expensive creams, to maintain the lifestyle, which started paying off in cash.

Read his full post:
“Dis message is for you all to read before you judge me. I was formally a man for almost 25yrs, nothing to show for it. I kept struggling even with my certificate as a graduate of accounting in university of Lagos, nothing to still show for it. I saw how all my females friends were cashing out back then. I went home and think about my life. If I join robbery they will end up killing me, secondly I don’t even have that heart to think to that dimension or to even scam people of their sweat. While I was growing I have a little bit of female features in me, so I decide to try what cross dressing look like. Under one yr of cross dressing I started making money . I was still surprised. So I gave my body more time, rubbing expensive creams, smelling good, using more of females body pills and looking out for myself. Boom more money keep coming… men admiring me, women giving me endorsements from right and left. Short story I fit in as a female to a man. God bless all d women around d world many of you love me and accepted me, save me and I will always respect WOMEN”.

In a prior post, she posted the photo of someone who carried out sex change.

Bobrisky wrote: If she didn’t die during her sex change, trust me I won’t die. God forbid if I did no problem, I’m happy I did wat makes me happy.

Period !!!!!. Have always loved to be a woman from child birth. Now that I have plenty money, let my wish come to pass.

Colombia here I come. Doctor Philip is about to give some wet pu***sy”, he wrote.

Lady bites off penis of ‘rapist who asked for blow job’

Juanita, a 24-year-old Ghanaian woman, has bitten off the penis of Emmanuel Ankron, a suspected armed robber who had asked for a blow job after allegedly raping her.

Blow job is the activity of giving sexual pleasure to a man by using the mouth on his penis.

According to BBC, the incident occurred at Obuasi area of Ashanti region in Ghana on Saturday

Ankron, 23, was said to have entered Juanita’s room at midnight with a cutlass and locally made pistol. But after carting items including money, a television set, and a phone, he had allegedly raped the woman.

Still not satisfied, he had asked his victim to give him a blow job before he would finally leave the room.

In her statement to the police, Juanita said that she bit off her attacker’s penis in the process of giving him the blow job.

“The man asked me to suck his penis. It was in the process that I bit off his penis,” she said.

The suspected rapist was said to have swiftly left the room, sensing he was bleeding profusely.

The young lady, who is believed to be a student, said she thereafter went to Anglogold Ashanti Hospital for treatment after the incident.

On getting to the hospital, Juanita said she discovered that her attacker also came there for medical attention. She then alerted the police and the suspect was arrested and put under guard at the hospital.

Godwin Ahianyo, Ashanti regional police spokesman, who spoke on the incident, said it is being investigated.

The police added that the retrieved part of the penis bitten off by Juanita had been preserved at the hospital amid the investigation.

Church of England approves same sex marriages, as Archbishops apologise to LGBT community

The Church of England yesterday announced moves that could lead to approval of same-sex marriages.

Church leaders have produced a 480-page book, with accompanying films, podcasts and education courses to explore the issue.

The Church has been deeply divided over gay rights since 1987, when its parliament, the General Synod, first voted to reinforce traditional teaching that gay sex is sinful. Earlier this year bishops restated the teaching that sex is for married couples only and that civil partnerships should be ‘sexually abstinent friendships’.

Same-sex civil marriages were introduced in 2014 and their predecessor, civil partnerships that carry the rights of marriage in all but name, were brought in in 2005. However the legislation gave faith groups an effective opt-out.

Archbishop Welby said in a foreword to the book, written with the Archbishop of York, the Most Reverend Stephen Cottrell, that the Church should be ashamed of causing hurt to gay people.

They said: ‘As soon as we begin to consider questions of sexual identity and behaviour, we need to acknowledge the huge damage and hurt that has been caused where talk of truth, holiness and discipleship has been wielded harshly and not ministered as a healing balm.

‘Especially amongst LGBTI+ people, every word we use – quite possibly including these in this very foreword, despite all the care we exercise – may cause pain.

‘We have caused, and continue to cause, hurt and unnecessary suffering. For such acts, each of us, and the Church collectively, should be deeply ashamed and repentant. As archbishops, we are personally very sorry where we have contributed to this.

The Bishop of Coventry, the Right Reverend Christopher Cocksworth, who helped produced yesterday’s new material, said: ‘There is no doubt that there are certain decisions in 2022 that the Church will have to face.’

He added: ‘There are some who feel this doctrine of marriage is ripe for development.’

Discussions are expected to be completed next year and to lead to ‘a timely conclusion in 2022 which would then be put before Synod.’

The Synod has the power to enact legally-binding rules but its deliberations are lengthy. They could mean the first Church of England same-sex marriages would be solemnised by 2025.

The Archbishop of Canterbury, the Most Reverend Justin Welby, attempted a reform in 2017. But his scheme, which would have allowed blessing services but not marriage for gay couples, went down to an ignominious defeat in the Synod. It satisfied neither gay rights supporters nor conservative evangelicals, who combined to defeat it.

The years since have been devoted to the secretive production of yesterday’s book and films, called Living in Love and Faith.

The archbishops added: ‘Defensiveness is felt, and aggression is experienced, both by those who long for change and by those who believe, sincerely, that change would be wrong and damaging.’

A further statement signed by all the CofE’s bishops said: ‘Disagreements are to be found among us as bishops. We do not agree on a number of matters relating to identity, sexuality, relationships and marriage.

‘Some of those differences of view relate to the ethics and lifestyle of opposite sex relationships and some relate to questions around gender and pastoral provisions for transgender people. Most pressing among our differences are questions around same-sex relationships, and we recognize that here decisions in several interconnected areas need to be made with some urgency.’

Any new deal on gay rights and same-sex marriage may follow the same pattern as the row over women priests and bishops, which also ran for decades and ended in compromise. While women are now appointed as both priests and bishops, parishes where traditionalists hold sway continue to maintain men-only clergy.

Jayne Ozanne, a prominent LGBT campaigner and former member of the Archbishops Council, told the Telegraph she welcomed the Archbishops’ apology, adding: ‘But, listening and learning is not enough. We need to act now to ensure that safeguards are put in place to protect LGBT+ people.’